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Your Home and Your Golden Years
You've worked hard to afford the home you live in today. You have undoubtedly invested sweat equity as well as money to maintain your home and gradually shape it to the comfortable living space that now says, “This is who I am.” Your ultimate dream...
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MORAL ARMOR'S Irrational Parenting, Part V
The Author of Moral Armor reveals the psychology of bad parenting; from why they have children to the ultimate parenting sin: raising aimless, fear-ridden, defenseless individuals.
Setting a Bad Example. Their illogical...
More Effective Communication with Children - Part 5
Wants to go to the movies
More Effective Communication with Children - Part 5
Robert Elias Najemy
A CHILD WANTS TO GO TO THE MOVIES
A child keeps pleading to be taken to a movie, but has not cleaned up his room for several days, a...
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Prayer
Prayer
What has the Lord been saying to me? As I begin to write and formulate this article, I am faced with the inevitable question. What is the Lord saying to you. In answer to this question, it is easy to fall into the trap of presenting a...
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Ways Father's can Invest in Their Children
One of the primary negative impacts on children is the lack of a consistent, nurturing father or father-figure. One of the primary predictors of future violent behavior in boys is how much neglect they perceive from their father. It’s not enough for “dad” to go to work, come home, read the paper, watch ESPN and then go to bed. That’s being a roommate not a dad.
Children need to perceive active investment from fathers. We’ve defined a good dad as the man who works consistently, brings home the paycheck, and doesn’t openly abuse his children and family. I think it’s time to expect more out of fathers. Here’s some suggestions.
1) Mentor Humility: Fathers can have a powerful impact on their children if they are willing to actively mentor humility. Showing children it’s ok to admit when they are wrong and placing others before one’s self are powerful investments.
2) Invest Time: Set aside time for your children on a regular, frequent basis. This time is for the kids. It allows them to bond with dad and each other in a familial, empowering way. This develops family coherence, problem solving development, and can be used to develop ethics and values.
3) Have bedtime with your children: Fathers should set aside bedtime as very
specific time to spend with each of the children. This is a time to reflect on the day, a time to establish calm communication with the children.
Children require a sense of safety and security. Bedtime can be used to create a quiet atmosphere that encourages your children to share and allows them to see that you are there for them when the world is dark and unsure.
Finally, both mom and dad should participate in bedtime. If children can fall asleep feeling safe, and secure they will experience a higher quality of sleep leading to improved, positive behavior. They will trust their parents more, leading to an increase in communication.
Fatherhood is no longer about procreation leading to paycheck contribution. It is investment leading to excellence. Fathers need to be as involved or more involved than mothers in the raising of children.
Darrin F. Coe, MA is the father of two very active pre-schoolers and a mental health professional
Darrin F. Coe, MA
1019 Clover
Canon City, CO 81212
719-275-5907
coe@ris.net
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Darrin F. Coe holds a master's degree in professional psychology and is the father of two preschool boys. contact at http://dcoe1.tripod.com
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